It feels like it was Valentine’s Day yesterday, but let’s be real: we don’t need to restrict ourselves to a holiday in order to show love. Loving someone is a daily choice! Showing someone love is a daily action as well. Plus, giving and spreading kindness and appreciation can be so much fun!
I am totally socially awkward so I find it difficult, at times, to be the first to show an expression of love. But, honestly, it can be so simple! So instead of making expressing love a difficult task, use these simple ways to make everyone around you feel great.
While this guide is written for couples in relationships, it can be applied to friendships, families, and in the workplace. Don’t restrict yourself from spreading the love!
Here are ways you can show someone you appreciate them every day of the year.
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Speak His or Her Love Language
If you haven’t read the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman I highly recommend it. It’s an easy read with inspiring ways to learn your partner’s love language, and then learn how to communicate with your partner in his or her love language.
If you are unfamiliar with the 5 Love Languages, they are:
- Acts of Service. This is the language where actions speak louder than words. Speaking this love language involves picking up a couple of chores around the household or cooking a meal.
- Words of Affirmation. To speak this language, use words to elevate your partner. Encourage your partner and let your partner know how much you appreciate them, and why.
- Receiving Gifts. If your partner enjoys receiving gifts, put thought into what gift you want to get him! Start with this list if you’re stuck on ideas.
- Quality Time. The language of quality time means your partner will value your undivided attention when you’re spending time together.
- Physical Touch. When your partner primarily speaks the language of physical touch, a simple hand on his shoulder will show so much love. Bonus points for regular back rubs!
To discover someone’s love language, pay attention to the ways they may show love; any concerns they bring up during or about the relationship; or, what they might bring up or request from you more often.
For example, maybe your significant other asks you to spend more time with him, or asks you to put down your phone when you eat dinner together. Maybe his love language is quality time.
(Seriously, the 5 Love Languages is a must-read for nurturing or developing relationships!)
Say “Thank You”
Don’t you love to be appreciated? So do others! A simple thank you goes a long way. Whenever you get the opportunity to, thank your partner.
But, you know what’s better than a simple “thank you”? A specific one.
Practice saying, “thank you for going out of your way to do the dishes,” or, “thank you for taking care of the yardwork.” If, out-of-the-blue, you thank your partner for something he does regularly, it will catch him off guard and make him feel especially appreciated! Especially if his love language is words of affirmation.
Take on the Chores for the Day
Figure out the chores your partner normally does. Is it his job to take out the trash? Or, is he the primary cook?
Try to take a load (however big or small) off his shoulders so he can take the time to rest and relax with you for the evening or weekend.
Send a Sweet Text When You’re Apart
Send a sweet text at any time of day to let your special someone know that you’re thinking about them! I love glancing at my phone and reading sweet messages from my other half.
From a simple message that says “I’m thinking about you,” to a list of reasons why you think he’s special, you’re beau is bound to appreciate the sweet, sweet love from you.
Write a Love Letter
Start by identifying qualities and traits you admire about your partner.
Now, think about what wonderful parts of life remind you about him. What is it that he does which reminds you of the wonderful part of life? I mean, life is pretty good; but doesn’t he make it better? Remind him!
Pour your appreciation onto a piece of stationary or a card. Everyone loves to be appreciated, and your partner is probably no different. This goes beyond what a text message can do. While every text message reminds him about your love when you’re apart, a letter has the potential of reminding him about the strength of your partnership for the rest of your lives!
Let Him Choose
If you like to be the decisionmaker, change it up a little bit.
Let him choose the movie or T.V. show and don’t fight him on it! Or, let him choose something fun for the weekend. If it’s a hobby of his you don’t normally participate, he will appreciate the effort. Even better, he might think the effort you’re making to do something with him is adorable as ever!
I’m totally not a decisionmaker though, so I think Mike appreciates it when I choose a place to eat or movie to watch…
Plan a Thoughtful Surprise
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be restricted to one day of the year. Find a gift that really says “I love you”! Imagine the joy on your partner’s face when you give him an unexpected gift out of the blue.
I know. Some of us aren’t great gift givers. If you’re having trouble shopping for a gift, check out this creative gift list for him. Sometimes we all need inspiration when it comes to getting the one we adore a token of love.
Choose Your Battles, or Choose Not to Battle
This is the most important way to show love! It’s human nature to want to be right. Sometimes you’ve grown up doing something a certain way, and it baffles you that your significant other doesn’t do something the way you are accustomed to.
Seriously. Next time you are in the heat of the moment, or upset or angry, try to take a step back. Ask yourself, is it really worth it to turn this into a conflict? Or, figure out a way to talk about your concerns without calling the cavalry. Making the effort to avoid a fight can be a true act of love. Sometimes our feelings gotta be heard, but some battles are just not worth fighting!
All You Need is Love
Love is an amazing language to speak, and there are so many ways to show it. And so many people who you can show love to.
These ways to show love can not only be applied to your partner, but they can be applied in the workplace, to your friends, to your family.
How do you think your mom would react if you sent her a sweet text message today? Or, what would the reaction be if you wrote a kind letter to your best friend? Wouldn’t your coworker appreciate it if you took on one of their small responsibilities tomorrow?
Do you think you’re the one giving all the love? Then low-key share this on your Facebook wall, your Pinterest feed, or even your partner’s Facebook wall.
Celebrate Valentine’s Day every day! How are you going to show love next?