A poem about Love & a poem about being Asian-American

To the person who needs to hear the words you are safe here, because no matter what happens, you’ve fallen down before, and I know you can pick yourself up again.

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When I get the inspiration to write, poems just flow out.

The inspiration to record this poem came suddenly last year (2021) after co-hosting an open mic night and reading these poems for a live group.

People ask me what inspired both poems, and the truth is that I’m shy. I’ve grown up having a hard time speaking for myself. I’m the type of person who experiences something, knows it doesn’t sit right with me, and writes so that I can process my feelings. 

Well, these poems are the result of processing my feelings. 

If you are able, I recommend listening to this poem via the embedded Instagram post below. However, closed captions are not available on this video, so I included the written poem, too.

This is a poem about Love

I cohosted an open mic, and the theme for that night was aloha. Aloha is a word that can be translated into unconditional love.

That inspired me to start writing a poem about love.

The problem is, the poem is unfinished because I ran into this roadblock:

Love 

is endless. 

I mean… how do I even begin to find the words that sum up the way your fingers brush along my body like you’re painting the galaxy? 

Which words do I use to describe the peace I feel watching two sets of walls slowly come down in a world of egos constantly going to war with each other? 

How can I use words to convey how I know you will not always be here, and that makes your choice to be here, with me, all the more meaningful.

Love

is endless,

like the infinite way one mirror reflects another mirror.

And if I’m honest, 

writing about love triggers me.

Writing about love brings me back to the moments I tried to fight all your demons so I didn’t have to face my own.

Writing about love brings me back to the moments love would lean in, pull me close, and make me feel at home…

Until I got too close, because when I got too close, love would push me away into a cloud of my confused inner child’s search for approval.

Writing about love brings me back to the moments where love turned into rejection. Rejection turned into heartbreak and heartbreak turned into pity.

You know – pity – focusing on the parts of Love’s character I found easy to let go.

I pity how closed Love is, I pity how Love pulls away, I pity anyone who falls into Love’s trap.

Writing about Love triggers me.

But that’s what Love is.

It’s getting over the fear to trust again. It’s watching the gentle way you lean in, and leaning in, too. Love is knowing that even if I’ll always be triggered, I can also always be open. 

Love… is whispering to myself: 

you are safe here. 

Because no matter what happens, you’ve fallen down before and I know you can pick yourself up again.

Love

is accepting that there will be times where love isn’t enough.

There are times we can face our demons together but there will be times we will need to face our demons on our own.

This is a poem about the demons of growing up as an Asian-American

I grew up uncomfortable in my own skin.

The women in my family grabbing me by my chin and tilting my head this way and that way… telling me my skin was too black and pushing papaya soap onto me like a sale at a department store

because using papaya soap would make my skin more white.

I grew up underrepresented…

I grew up underrepresented even in the classroom where, year after year, we would learn about the history on which America was built but never

my own.

I went to a public school in a community full of brown people but in school we still learned that racism was a problem that was black and white. And then after our lessons about the American Civil Rights Movement, we would break into our own smaller groups, whispering racist comments about the classmates around us.

Topics so relevant to our community didn’t fit into the curriculum.

  • And why didn’t the 442nd Infantry Regiment, Japanese-Americans serving the very country who considered them ENEMY ALIENS, fit into the curriculum?
  • Why didn’t the Asian exclusion years, half a century of relying on Asian laborers to build American railroads yet preventing Asian immigration based on race, fit into the curriculum? 
  • Why didn’t the US permanently dislocating Micronesian residents from their home when they tested nuclear bombs on the Bikini Atoll fit into the curriculum?
  • Why didn’t the decades of US bombing of the Hawaiian island of Kaho’olawe fit into the curriculum?
  • Why is it that I still meet Americans to this day who tilt their head when I tell them I’m from Guam, an American territory in the Pacific. An island full of more people who serve in the US military per capita than the US mainland itself? 

Recently someone told me that to live in the melting pot, you should be willing to melt. 

And I was offended until I realized that I am so culturally bleached… I’ve melted already.

After I first moved from Guam to the US mainland, anytime my white friends learnt something about me that was non-white, it was magnified and my non-white-ness was put on display like a panda at the zoo.

But it only took 2 years of people ridiculing my middle name that I started telling anyone who asked what it was that it was Natalie – not Natsuko.

Despite receiving perfect marks in Maths classes in high school, when I went to university I signed up for anything but Calculus because I wanted to separate myself as far from Asian stereotypes as possible.

So I’m not melting, I’ve melted.

I grew up separating myself so far from my culture – until I realized that most people around the world hate what I consider comfort food – Filipino food – so I have finally learnt I just shouldn’t trust anyone’s judgment anymore.

And the truth is, I used to love work, because growing up in an Asian family, the more you work, the more value you bring to the family. So you can imagine how difficult my identity crisis has been meeting white people who are all about self care, balance, and the 4-hour work week.

But this poem is not about me.

This poem is about feeling. Because, everyone, from Asian parents, to people whose egos get intimidated by discussions about race, tell us to “get over it” instead of talking about our feelings.

  • We’re told to get over our addiction to stress after being raised in a competitive culture where there is an intergenerational drive to excel. 
  • We’re told to get over it after white women are cast for roles as Asian women in film.
  • We’re told to get over our feelings and fight those uncomfortable emotions or otherwise – be seen as weak. And keeping our lips tight helps us fit into the role of the “model minority,” again pandas on display as hard workers of society.

This poem is about my brothers & sisters being able to look at themselves in the mirror and love their dark brown skin.

This poem is about aspirations. Aspirations to dream bigger and achieve more, because you see someone just like you dreaming beyond the bamboo ceiling of expectations that have been established over generations.

This poem is about understanding. Understanding that colonial bleaching is happening around the world. Understanding that yes, everyone faces adversity and the only way forward is to see where our brothers and sisters are struggling and move forward together.

This poem is about linking your experience

with mine. It’s about using our different backgrounds and perspectives to open the discussion so we can break down toxic walls built over generations. So we can break down the toxic walls that are being built during our generation.

This poem is a plea to stop telling people to “GET OVER IT.”

Because instead of suppressing emotions and getting over it, we should feel empowered to love these parts of us instead. 

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