Designing a Life Vision

When is the last time you set goals for your personal growth, character or relationships?

Aloha! I’m Krista Aoki. The post below is from my public notebook. My pile of unfinished essays started growing quicker than my reading list.  Instead of continuing to let my pile of drafts grow, I now work in public to develop my ideas. The post below is an example of drafting in public.

If you feel inclined, leave a comment with any questions or thoughts you have. Your thoughts will help me take my ideas to the next level!

With love, 

When you ask people about their goals, they are quick to name career or finance goals. But why don’t we also set goals for our personal growth, character, or relationships with our community?

Taking the time to sit down and write a vision can help you:

  1. Rediscover your true self
  2. Feel unshakeable confidence
  3. Experience a new level of worth and freedom

The power of setting an intention is incredible. If you want to change your life, you can’t just do the same thing every day. You have to do something differently.

For example, one of my goals for 2021 is to complete a trail marathon. But I couldn’t just do it with the same kind of training as a half-marathon. I have to move forward differently in order to achieve a different goal.

Choose life categories important to you

Examples include: 

  • 💻 Career 
  • 👯‍♀️ Friendships 
  • 👨‍👩‍👦 Family 
  • 🌏 Quality of Life 
  • 💰 Finances 
  • 🧘🏽‍♀️ Personal Character 
  • 💓Partnership 
  • 🍃 Personal Growth 
  • 🏃🏻‍♀️Health & Fitness

Then, within each category, identify your core empowering beliefs. For example, some of my core empowering beliefs are:

  • 💻 Career 
    • My writing inspires and moves people.
  • 👯‍♀️ Friendships 
    • Nourishing friendships will thrive from my warm, understanding energy.
  • 🏃🏻‍♀️Health & Fitness
    • My strength and resilience will push me forward.

Next, explore what your highest self looks like in that category. After that, dig deeper. Why do you want that life? Why is that version of yourself important to you?

Then, identify which goals, tasks and habits will help you achieve your highest self in that category.

Create life-changing habits

Last year, I moved to a new city. After spending three years travelling, I craved connection. I craved deep, meaningful friendships.

I shared this with my gentle, yet assertive, coach. “You talk about how you want to feel connected with others, but the habits you added to your habit tracker don’t reflect that,” she told me during one session.

Following her guidance, I committed to a scary, yet achievable, habit: go out for coffee with one new person each week.

It wasn’t easy, yet six months later, I felt connected with community, with my new housemates, and with deep friendships.

Just like many other things in life, that small habit resulted in compounding results.

What habits can you commit to for the next three months that will change your life forever?

The first step is knowing what you want most in life. The next step is identifying the tasks and habits you need to get there.

Set up a system to review your progress

  • Use a habit tracker
  • Schedule quarterly or monthly reviews
  • Celebrate every benchmark you hit

Choose things aligned with that life vision

The next time someone asks for your time or energy, you’ll be confident about whether or not a “yes” is aligned.

When guided by your life vision, you feel confident saying “yes” only to things that are truly meaningful to you.